What happened to “please” and “thank you”? Where did “you’re welcome” runaway to? I sure do miss “excuse me” and I can’t seem to find “how’s your day going?” anywhere. If you see these missing manners in the near future, please ask them to go back home. Thank you for stopping by! Please leave a comment if it is in your heart to do so and I’m hoping that you’re having a good day! Excuse me? Oh yes, you’re welcome! 🙂
“No f*#%ing way!” Now that I got your attention, those were the words that got my attention while standing in line at Costco with my kids standing right next to me. As I turned to the voice that made this comment, I looked at him, then looked at my kids, then looked at him again and said, “Really? Can you not use those words exactly right now?”
I find it interesting that with the rise of social media, there has also been an increase of bad manners, so says the poll of me. Am I the only one that notices rude or tactless behavior on the internet? Social media is everywhere and there are plenty of people who use it on a daily basis, so how come online etiquette is brushed aside or in some cases, nonexistent? What gets me confuzzled is that people will accept this behavior online but in real life would probably punch the culprit on the nose!
I’m positive that just text can be read the wrong way, as I have been on the receiving end of rude remarks that had me thinking that I must have wrote the text wrong. Nope, I didn’t write it wrong, he was just rude. His uncalled for remarks that were publicly displayed on Twitter got me thinking… Do people know the difference between how to behave online and how to behave in the real world (TRW)? Or does it even matter? I have been pondering this thought and have come to the conclusion that if a person practices good manners in TRW, they probably practice it online and if they don’t, is it because they have a protective shield known as a display screen that turns them into a barbaric cave person that grunts and moans with every text? Hmmmm…
So with that last hmmmm… I’ve decided to list a Dos and Don’ts of Online Manners. Here we go…
Do leave comments on an article or a social thread that you have read and enjoyed. Nothing puts a smile on an online author’s face like a friendly comment and it is always appreciated.
Don’t not read the article, leave a comment that has nothing to do with the post and then claim the author is wrong! Now, you know we’ve all seen these types of comments before! While I’m at it, please don’t advertise your website either unless it is relevant to what the post is. If people want to know who you are, they’ll click your name that I pretty much guarantee has a link connected.
Do take the time to say please and thank you to those that interact with you online. Whether it’s a retweet to thank someone or a please in front of the word share, please and thank you are the foundation of good manners.
I have a friend who has a friend that is in need of a little help. She is a single mom that is barely making ends meet and my friend helps her when she can. Her friend told her not to help her anymore, not because she was able to stand on her own two feet, but I think pride may have gotten in the way. My friend asked me to be a “secret Santa” to her friend so that her friend could buy some groceries. Are you still with me?
Sometimes we need a helping hand. Sometimes we need several pairs of helping hands. And you know what? It’s okay to be on the receiving end of some much needed assistance when circumstances may not be going our way. Feeling uncomfortable for a situation that is not wanted, is never anybody’s choice, but to not accept help from those who truly care is just plain stubborn! And then there are those who may feel that now this person who has done something generous now expects something in return… and to them I say, “Get over it!”
Throughout my life, I was the one who always needed a little help to get me on my feet and moving forward. I was the one that needed a place to stay, the one who took on jobs that came with a meal, the one who didn’t have a car to get me to that next job… and along the way, I have had many hands that have come to my rescue. Did I feel awkward or embarrassed or that I could never pay these people back for their kindness? Of course I did, but without their genuine concern for my well being, who knows what park bench I would’ve laid my head on or which morgue would’ve been my final destination.
Times have changed for me and my situation, and I am now able to be those helping hands to those whose lives might need a little extra TLC. The sense of satisfaction fills my heart when I am able to make a positive difference in someone’s life. I know how it feels to be on the receiving end of aid and support, now I am the giver and I wouldn’t want it any other way as this is how I pay it forward. So please, if you are ever on the receiving end of true generosity, please accept it graciously and when you can, and you will one day… pay it forward.
Looking back, I am thankful for each memory that an angel appeared disguised as a caring “friend” who helped me make it through another day. For these people have shaped my perspectives and to this day if I see or hear about a friend in need, my hands become helpers and under my T-shirt, I hide my wings.