Ohhh Manners!! Where Did You Go?

photoWhat happened to “please” and “thank you”?  Where did “you’re welcome” runaway to?  I sure do miss “excuse me” and I can’t seem to find “how’s your day going?” anywhere.  If you see these missing manners in the near future, please ask them to go back home.  Thank you for stopping by!  Please leave a comment if it is in your heart to do so and I’m hoping that you’re having a good day! Excuse me?  Oh yes, you’re welcome!  🙂

When did swearing become a daily part of casual conversations?

images“No f*#%ing way!”  Now that I got your attention, those were the words that got my attention while standing in line at Costco with my kids standing right next to me.  As I turned to the voice that made this comment, I looked at him, then looked at my kids, then looked at him again and said, “Really?  Can you not use those words exactly right now?”

 The look on his face was of embarrassment and an apology followed in a matter of seconds, but the damage was already done, sort of.  Thankfully, my kids didn’t pay much attention to what or who I was talking to as they were most interested in the red phone that connects a customer to order a pizza and how were they going to convince me to pick up the receiver.
When did swearing become a daily part of casual conversations?  I totally get letting off a good… F%$#!!!  every now and then, provided that there are no little ears around, but what happened to creative adjectives?  Sometimes an adjective or even a made up word gets the point across just as well, for instance; FIGGLEFARGO!  See?  Same tone but family friendly.
I bet if the singers on the radio said Figglefargo in their lyrics, there might not be so many bleeps made by the radio station, which brings me to another question… When did swearing become okay to put in the lyrics of songs that we listen to on the radio usually with the family in the car?  I have to pay attention to the lyrics because even with the bleeps, you still know what the singer is saying and my kids are usually sitting right next to me.  What kind of example are we setting for the next generation?

And then there are print magazines.  There are several that I would love my oldest child to read for the great information that they have to offer, but I have read articles in those magazines that made me think otherwise.  One of them is Fast Company.  A favorite of mine because of the forward thinking and always edgy content, I know my son would enjoy it… BUT, the first time I saw f*#k in one of their stories, I was a bit turned off that language like that was used in a business type magazine, edgy or not.

I get it, I really do, freedom of speech, freedom of the press, but what about freedom of not having to listen to foul language or see the text in a place where it shouldn’t be?  Is anybody else tired of it too or do I need to just get with the times?  “No Figglefargo way!”

Are You Minding Your Online Manners?

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I find it interesting that with the rise of social media, there has also been an increase of bad manners, so says the poll of me.  Am I the only one that notices rude or tactless behavior on the internet?  Social media is everywhere and there are plenty of people who use it on a daily basis, so how come online etiquette is brushed aside or in some cases, nonexistent?  What gets me confuzzled is that people will accept this behavior online but in real life would probably punch the culprit on the nose!

I’m positive that just text can be read the wrong way, as I have been on the receiving end of rude remarks that had me thinking that I must have wrote the text wrong.  Nope, I didn’t write it wrong, he was just rude.  His uncalled for remarks that were publicly displayed on Twitter got me thinking… Do people know the difference between how to behave online and how to behave in the real world (TRW)?  Or does it even matter?  I have been pondering this thought and have come to the conclusion that if a person practices good manners in TRW, they probably practice it online and if they don’t, is it because they have a protective shield known as a display screen that turns them into a barbaric cave person that grunts and moans with every text?  Hmmmm…

So with that last hmmmm… I’ve decided to list a Dos and Don’ts of Online Manners.  Here we go…

Do leave comments on an article or a social thread that you have read and enjoyed.  Nothing puts a smile on an online author’s face like a friendly comment and it is always appreciated.

Don’t not read the article, leave a comment that has nothing to do with the post and then claim the author is wrong!  Now, you know we’ve all seen these types of comments before!  While I’m at it, please don’t advertise your website either unless it is relevant to what the post is.  If people want to know who you are, they’ll click your name that I pretty much guarantee has a link connected.

Do take the time to say please and thank you to those that interact with you online. Whether it’s a retweet to thank someone or a please in front of the word share, please and thank you are the foundation of good manners.

 Don’t be rude!  Just because you may never meet someone in TRW, doesn’t give you the green light to throw your everyday manners out the window.  I’ve said this a million times and I’ll say it again, “Just because your words don’t mean anything to you, it means something to somebody.”
Do make friendly connections on social sites such as Facebook or G+.  What a wonderful opportunity for new friendships and possible business contacts.  Our world becomes that much smaller and the people around the globe become more like family with every new “friend” we encounter.
Don’t stay “friends” with those that have a track record of harassing or bullying others in the online world.  That type of behavior is unacceptable in TRW and chances are, you would never allow deplorable conduct in your home… so why would you acknowledge it in the form of a “friending” in your online home?  One word… unfriend!
So there you have it, online manners 101 so says me.  Thank you for taking the time to read!  Please share if you feel the need to remind others about their online manners.  Friendly comments are always appreciated.  Have a Wonderful Day! 😉

Paying It Forward

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I have a friend who has a friend that is in need of a little help.  She is a single mom that is barely making ends meet and my friend helps her when she can.  Her friend told her not to help her anymore, not because she was able to stand on her own two feet, but I think pride may have gotten in the way.  My friend asked me to be a “secret Santa” to her friend so that her friend could buy some groceries.  Are you still with me?

Sometimes we need a helping hand.  Sometimes we need several pairs of helping hands.  And you know what?  It’s okay to be on the receiving end of some much needed assistance when circumstances may not be going our way.  Feeling uncomfortable for a situation that is not wanted, is never anybody’s choice, but to not accept help from those who truly care is just plain stubborn!  And then there are those who may feel that now this person who has done something generous now expects something in return… and to them I say, “Get over it!”

Throughout my life, I was the one who always needed a little help to get me on my feet and moving forward.  I was the one that needed a place to stay, the one who took on jobs that came with a meal, the one who didn’t have a car to get me to that next job… and along the way, I have had many hands that have come to my rescue.  Did I feel awkward or embarrassed or that I could never pay these people back for their kindness?  Of course I did, but without their genuine concern for my well being, who knows what park bench I would’ve laid my head on or which morgue would’ve been my final destination.

Times have changed for me and my situation, and I am now able to be those helping hands to those whose lives might need a little extra TLC.  The sense of satisfaction fills my heart when I am able to make a positive difference in someone’s life.  I know how it feels to be on the receiving end of aid and support, now I am the giver and I wouldn’t want it any other way as this is how I pay it forward.  So please, if you are ever on the receiving end of true generosity, please accept it graciously and when you can, and you will one day… pay it forward.

Looking back, I am thankful for each memory that an angel appeared disguised as a caring “friend” who helped me make it through another day.  For these people have shaped my perspectives and to this day if I see or hear about a friend in need, my hands become helpers and under my T-shirt, I hide my wings.